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Pregnancy announcements. Via Facebook.

Pregnancy announcements. Via Facebook.

I read an article recently that said you can now let your friends know via facebook that you’re pregnant. There’s a field where you can add a status saying “expected child” and your due date. I am not sure how I missed this, but I have enough trouble sometimes keeping on top of facebook and its new gadgets and rules on tagging and privacy as it is.

And it got me thinking about how far we’ve come in terms of announcing pregnancies and the many varied ways we can do it. We seem to have moved away from the traditional telling our family and friends individually, in many cases haven’t we?

With our first child we obviously told our immediate family in person, but the vast majority of our friends found out via email. However, this was mainly because we were living overseas at the time and it was quite frankly, much simpler and cheaper than making a truckload of international phone-calls! With our second and third child we told friends face to face or over the phone instead.

Another girlfriend held an announcement party for us. She hosted a tea party and when we all rocked up, she was wearing a t’shirt that had a positive sign on the front and on the back said ‘Yes, I’m pregnant!’

After having gone through six painful and gruelling IVF cycles in order for that to happen we were all absolutely thrilled for her and I thought it was such a sweet way to share her joy.

But the facebook status update idea got me thinking. How would I feel if I found out that way that a friend of mine was pregnant? I mean a long time friend or someone I was close to. Would I feel left out or hurt that I had to find out that way? That they hadn’t taken the time to let me know via an email or even a text? And the answer is truthfully, yes I would feel a bit hurt.
So it’s an interesting one.

How did you tell your friends you were pregnant? Would you use facebook to let people know?

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Posted 29 July 2011 - 09:29 PM

Avatar Katherine_Michell01

even tho everyone knows I just put it on my profile!

Posted 29 July 2011 - 09:35 PM

Avatar Former Member

Generally speaking i love facebook but i have had trouble with when i announced one of my pregnancies to close friends after letting them know they left me messages on my facebook wall, problem was i hadn't finished telling everyone yet or my work so i was really annoyed. And then again when i had one of my babies made a few phone calls and then the messages were again put on facebook these are things i think that shouldn't be put by others on facebook until you have done so yourself, it's exciting having a baby and it's your news that you should share with everyone first via phone calls etc and when you are ready for all of facebook to know it should be you who writes it first.

Posted 29 July 2011 - 09:41 PM

Avatar LoveHeart

I would be one of those people to use facebook to announce a pregnancy. HOWEVER, I would only use it after announcing to my friends and family first in person. The facebook announcement would really be just for those friends I havent seen in a while, or are interstate/overseas. I wouldnt say that I would use facebook as the only way (and first instance way) of telling people.

I am 25 and I guess I feel like I have grown up with the internet (had the internet since I was 10) and it is part of how I communicate with people. Same with texting. I have had a mobile phone since I was 13 and am used to texting people things that other people are used to phone calls. Its how I have grown up, I havent lived in a time when mobile phones and the internet werent easily accessible.

I feel that announcing it on facebook is normal (for announcing thing to those not so close friends and far away relatives) because thats all I have known. When you announced your pregnancy via email, perhaps some of those friends and family felt the same way you do about people announcing it on facebook?

I know the only way to tell some people is face to face, not because they dont have facebook, but because they are older and are from a different generation to me that would expect to be told in person. They havent grown up with the internet or mobile phones, their "normal" is announcing important things in person, over the phone (voice of course) or even with a hand written letter.

I guess it just depends on how you have grown up and how you are used to communitcating (and if you think about how others have grown up communicating).

Posted 29 July 2011 - 10:57 PM

Avatar Ahalfdozen

My grandmother had a go at my Mum the other day as she was one of the last to find out about my being engaged. It's a bit different as my grandmother and I don't talk anymore as we had a big issue with her and my son one day a while back. She says it wasn't fair because even though she has a facebook account she doesn't use it so she missed out on the announcement. I don't really care though. My parents, and close friends, we rang or told in person. For everyone else, I see no problem with Facebook. Was the same when we announced this pregnancy. Rang those who matter to us most, the "aquaintances" can find out online.

Posted 30 July 2011 - 12:23 AM

Avatar ~Ruby~Gloom~


these are things i think that shouldn't be put by others on facebook until you have done so yourself, it's exciting having a baby and it's your news that you should share with everyone first via phone calls etc and when you are ready for all of facebook to know it should be you who writes it first.

That's just baby news (or any big news) etiquette smile It's such a shame that people don't think about these things before they announce someone elses news.

Posted 30 July 2011 - 12:29 AM

Avatar Hotpinksummer


even tho everyone knows I just put it on my profile!



Hello Katherine_Michell01,

I want to add this to my Facebook profile.

How did you do it?

TIA.

Posted 31 July 2011 - 05:49 AM

Avatar LoveHeart


Hello Katherine_Michell01,

I want to add this to my Facebook profile.

How did you do it?

TIA.



Click your profile -> edit profile (at top right of page) -> Friends and family (left side of page) -> Add a family member -> Then select relationship "Expected: child", and then put in your due date.

Posted 31 July 2011 - 06:55 AM

Avatar onesofar


Click your profile -> edit profile (at top right of page) -> Friends and family (left side of page) -> Add a family member -> Then select relationship "Expected: child", and then put in your due date.


Does this come up in the news feed so EVERYONE sees it? or they would only see this information if they went into my information and looked at it?

Thanks

Posted 07 August 2011 - 06:38 AM

Avatar Mkfoster87

I told my family first in person early on and slowly started telling extended family and close friends after 12weeks - eventually I put it up on facebook so all the acquaintances could know aswell.

Posted 09 August 2011 - 06:50 AM

Avatar Kehly

We're 12 weeks today, yay!

We have told both of our immediate families and intend to visit my remaining grandparent this coming weekend and let her know as a courtesy, she's not on Facebook though so we'd be safe announcing there beforehand. I'm also not that close to her, but know she'd make Dad's life nuts if we didn't tell her and she found out later.

We've actually got our wedding in 4 weekends time, debating saving the news until then or to do it now... Our close friends already know, although I still need to tell one of my best friends still - just left a message on his phone to call me back though. I rang my mother's brother who is important to me specially last week and let him know, since he cannot make the wedding. I definitely did not want him finding out via Facebook or secondhand from people that were at the wedding.

We never thought we would have a baby thanks to my history with endometriosis, so everyone that matters to us is absolutely thrilled as we are. Facebook to me is secondary to letting people know either in person or over the phone.

Posted 30 August 2011 - 10:02 PM

Avatar mama chels

It was 2 days before Christmas when I found out, which was the 23rd, on my partners bithday. Except I couldn't tell him, he was at home (he couldn't get out of work to make the trip unfortunately), and was drinking with a mate, while I was off in another state visiting famiy. So I had to wait until I saw him on Christmas Eve to tell him. This meant, all my family knew + my best friend (with a no facebooking! rule applied), I had to not tell his sister who had driven me and my girl to my inlaws, then I could finally break it to them all (partner first) that I was pregnant! Lucky for me that was a special family time. Some friends knew we'd been trying, and when they found out, it was hard to contain their excitement...but I nearly made it to the 12 week mark with no face-booking about it. Some people knew or had guessed anyway though because overly-excited family members couldn't contain themselves, completely ignoring the etiquette! :/

Posted 30 August 2011 - 10:07 PM

Avatar Cwatson80

Totally agree with Wobbity, Face book etiquette, wait until the actual person pregnant has announced it before you put it on the wall.. We have been telling close friends and family as we are still early and it has followed with DONT PUT IT ON FB yet.. one person did and i was lucky a friend called and told me so i could remove the post before it got out of control..

But this day and age FB is a means of communicating so sooner or later someone will spill the beans with the FB wall of chinese whispers...

If someone close doesnt know by the time your putting it on FB well you obviously haven't spoken in a while so they shouldn't be getting there nose out of place...

Posted 30 August 2011 - 10:10 PM

Avatar Cwatson80

Totally agree with Wobbity, Face book etiquette, wait until the actual person pregnant has announced it before you put it on the wall.. We have been telling close friends and family as we are still early and it has followed with DONT PUT IT ON FB yet.. one person did and i was lucky a friend called and told me so i could remove the post before it got out of control..

But this day and age FB is a means of communicating so sooner or later someone will spill the beans with the FB wall of chinese whispers...

If someone close doesnt know by the time your putting it on FB well you obviously haven't spoken in a while so they shouldn't be getting there nose out of place...

Posted 30 August 2011 - 10:10 PM

Avatar Jakes'Mummy

my partner and i told everyone who really mattered to us face to face, then just said "cannot wait to be a mum/dad" smile

Posted 02 September 2011 - 06:23 AM

Avatar Asra27

I'm currently 15 weeks pregnant & only told a couple of people. The rest can wait until it's no longer mine & my fiance's secret. Over the weekend I have found out via facebook that 2 of my friends are pregnant (1 due a week after me & the other due a month after me) & have found it really intimidating.

Posted 25 November 2011 - 06:29 AM

Avatar mummy mason

My husband a toying with a couple of ideas about how to tell everyone... of course I'm dying to tell all my friends and his Mum and his Dad, my family however I'm quite happy to keep 'mum' about it. I know thid may sound a little strange, and don't get the wrong idea i'm incredibly close to my family, however we already have 2 children and they havent been shy about giving their opinions about thinking we shouldn't have any more... they may just get the announcement at my birthday dinner next week, close friends (who may not attend) will be texted or called as for everyone else -FACEBOOK- and we'll let our 6year old use our good news as 'show and tell' at school and let the rumour mill do the rest (we're in a small town it shouldn't take long for the whole town to know).

Posted 17 February 2012 - 06:43 AM

Avatar kaitie_a

Me n my hubby told our respective families over the phone as we live in a different state, we told them around the 5 week mark. We then told some really close friends when I was about 10 weeks, and then after my 12 week scan we made the facebook announcement, for all of our friends and also alot of my oversea's friends as well. A fair few family members like cousin's, aunties etc found out when we made the f/book announcement and they didn't seem to care. I think as long as you tell the ppl who matter to you and who are involved in your life then who cares what everyone else thinks!!! smile now everyone is happy with f/book updates, but I still send photos via text to my family and call my Nan as she isn't on f/book!!! smile

Posted 27 June 2012 - 04:26 PM

Avatar Harmonysweetpea

I am 16 weeks and I only announced our news on facebook last weekend, so waited a bit longer than the usual 12-13 week stage. Most people knew already by this time so it was more the accquaintances or work collegues I am not as close to (I work with about 200 people). It was an easy way to announce to far away relatives who might not have known too. The most fun part is being able to share the scan photos these days via FB and the progress of the bump.

Posted 28 June 2012 - 06:01 PM

Avatar Ebz_2487

My husbands grandmother passed away the end of last year we woke up one morning to find that his cousin had posted it on Facebook before everyone had been informed they are a small family and it was quite upsetting for everyone so I think Facebook is shit for that reason

Posted 28 June 2012 - 07:28 PM

Avatar KCollier81

I am about 16 weeks and only informed our families about 3 weeks ago. A very few people knew before hand but that was only because they guessed and my husband and I couldn't keep straight faces smile We have gradually told close friends and other family members as we have seen them but we're still trying to work out if there is anyone that we have missed! I have stopped using FB so told hubby it was up to him to make the announcement - so far he hasn't bothered and I'm not sure if he will.

Posted 02 January 2014 - 11:19 PM

Avatar TSW13

We didn't really tell many people but when I was about 6 months I posted on Facebook that dp layed his face my belly and bub kicked him on the cheek Haha. So many people had no idea!

Posted 02 January 2014 - 11:55 PM

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