Sometimes i look at him & i think - ergh - you are soooo annoying & i wish you would grow up & move out already... LOL.. but then other times he shows me that he really is still just my baby boy & i wish that he will live me forever!! haha
13/14 is just waaaay too young IMO to be dealing with this crap.. my DS has no idea - he had no real idea that kids dont feel 'loved' by their parents until this year when all this stuff started coming up with his friends. He had no idea that parents didnt 'care' what their kids were doing or where they were!! LOL.. He told me today that he is so lucky to have such great parents that love him so much!! I just cant believe that at 13 there are kids that KNOW they are not loved/cared for. I wish they could all live with us!! DS started to lie to us etc so that he could hang out with these friends, but he very soon realised that we kept finding out the truth & that he was gettign into more trouble for lying than for the other 'kid' stuff that they were getting up to!! He quickly realised that he has no reason to lie to us & that if he wants to go somewhere all he has to do is ask & the answer is usually yes, but for some reason if it is no, we always offer up an alternative.
I'm feeling pretty good about our parenting at the moment to be honest - which makes a nice change from the tween years when everything was soooo difficult & i wondered wether we were actually getting anywhere.
OMG this is stuff my 16 yr old bil deals with its getting younger and younger sad
I think being bi or lesbian in school is a "cool" thing one of my best friends is bi and had a gf in school but I still feel like oh Lordy when I see the girls in highschool all over one another there is a "couple" at bil's school at the moment mmmm who knows blink poor thing that wouldn't help the self esteem at all being dropped for a chick poor possum he sounds like a sweet lil guy and will get a new non batting for the other team gf soon smile
The cutting is a sensitive is scary sad you have raised a wonderful boy hun what a kind heart he has to try and fix her. That's a wonderful idea to get her out to your house too I hope she gets the help she needs sad teen girls can be so cruel bullying is a real serious thing and it needs to be stamped out!! I worry too when my girls are in highschool as it seems worse for girls as try can be so bitchy!
Edited to add I don't think all bi and what not in school are doing it to be cool obviously as one of my closest friends is bi grin just thought I'd chuck that out there incase people took me the wrong way smile
i tend to think that too about being gay/bi as cool as well (of course no ALL kids as well )... so different to when we were kids...
but holy cow, kids are MEAN these days. The worst we would say to someone was i hate you, i dont want to be your friend anymore & now they bully so much, with such hatred that kids kill themselves... i wish it could get stamped out too.. so sad.. you just cant seem to win as a teen these days.
I really worry about this one that is cutting herself tho - that's really scary.