in no way am i judging her if anything she finds it harder to relate to me then the other way around.
Anyway she had asked me to visit as she is having problems with her partner and wanted someone to chat to. I haven;t been to her house in maybe 12mths only because we always meet at our nans.
I was absolutley horrified when i walked in. There is a hole the size of a dinner plate in the bath tub in the loungeroom there are chunks of plaster/brick taken out of the walls. EVERY door is either torn off it's hinges or holding on by 1. I never went in any other rooms so can't say what they loook like.
She said it is all from her partner. now i don't know if i believe that. She also has an explosive personallity. i would put the doors down to her but not the holes.
Whist i was there the cops turned up about the latest fight. I don;t know the details i stayed inside with my kids and my niece.
When i left i drove away crying. That to me is no life. I have never had fights with my dh like that and we have been together for 13yrs. Neither of us would willingly destroy the others property or a house that doesn't belong to us.
I rang dh just cause i needed to talk to someone and when i told him it wasn;t normal he asked how i new. Maybe we are the exception to the rule.
So my question is are we the exception? is this normal behaviour among people you know?
And any advice on what i can say to my sister?
All i keep thinking is thank god our mums not coming down here for my bubs birth because it is her house they live in.
i''''m baking a baby