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For the past couple of weeks DD has become very attached to me. Before now she has been very independent, doesn't like being cuddled etc. Now she climbs all over me, has to be on top of me if I'm on the couch, she follows me around, cries if I put her down, has stranger anxiety. I thought this was all part of normal development? But friends and family are making me feel like it's my fault. They say oh it's because you spend too much time with her, she sees you too much. I'm thinking, of course I spend a lot of time with her, she's only 15 months old and I'm her mummy! What do you expect. She goes to daycare 3 half days a week because I'm studying and to me that's way enough time away. I want to be the one to teach her things and I love spending time with her! Sorry this has kinda turned into a vent. I'm just tired of the people closest to me saying she has attention seeking problems and that it's my fault she's clingy! Please reassure me this is normal behaviour for a toddler unsure








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OMW yes. My daughter is like that with me too. How can people blame you for your daughter being too clingy and then having the cheek to say you spend too much time with her? Good grief!!!! I wish I had more time with my daughter. Wow sorry that one got me!

You are obviously doing an amazing job smile

For the past couple of weeks DD has become very attached to me. Before now she has been very independent, doesn't like being cuddled etc. Now she climbs all over me, has to be on top of me if I'm on the couch, she follows me around, cries if I put her down, has stranger anxiety. I thought this was all part of normal development? But friends and family are making me feel like it's my fault. They say oh it's because you spend too much time with her, she sees you too much. I'm thinking, of course I spend a lot of time with her, she's only 15 months old and I'm her mummy! What do you expect. She goes to daycare 3 half days a week because I'm studying and to me that's way enough time away. I want to be the one to teach her things and I love spending time with her! Sorry this has kinda turned into a vent. I'm just tired of the people closest to me saying she has attention seeking problems and that it's my fault she's clingy! Please reassure me this is normal behaviour for a toddler unsure


It is perfectly normal behaviour and it really irritates me that people think its not and that there is something wrong with you/your child or that you need to fix it.

She's only 15 months, perfectly normal that Mummy is her no. 1 and so lovely... enjoy it while it lasts. You can never spend too much time with your kids!

PS love the quote on your signature... wub
That seems like reasonably normal behavior to me. Kids go through clingy phases. Is she getting teeth? Molars start coming in around that age and they must hurt like hell. My kids definitely where clingy when theirs came in. Otherwise illness or developmental phase could be the answer. I would not worry about what your friends say they obviously no nothing about attachment. Spending lots of time with your child makes them feel secure and if they feel secure then they are less likely to be clingy / need reassurance. Don't stress clingy phases pass.
My dd isnt clingy etc... And I'm with her 24/7 - we are always together unless her grandpa and nanna take her for an outing/sleep over (they are few and far between though!) and she is not clingy to me at all lol she loves me, we have a great bond but she doesn't get upset when leaving me to go there or if I duck to the shops and leave her with daddy so it's not coa you spend too much time with her lol

Tell them to mind their own business and also, tell them you will enjoy it while it lasts cos before long our babies will be all grown up and we'll only see them when they need food, washing done etc... tongue







Like the other ladies have said, this is NOT your fault.
My DD2 is just coming off a clingy phase (she is nearly 18 mths) so I absoulutely think this is part of normal toddler behaviour!

Keep going with parenting your way, I think you are doing a great job!!


Mr J (April 2005) Miss Z (Feb 2007) and Miss O (Oct 2010)

What is so wrong with a little one wanting their mommy it's normal
Yes some like mommies attention more than other toddlers but its not wrong or as a mother you are doing anything wrong
I look at it this way since they have come into this world and started their life mommy has been their for everything we are their safety security the one that tends to all their needs plays with them laughs with them is up in the early hours of the morning with them when their sick in pain or scared

And it's not your fault how rude
My Daughter is the exactly the same at and at the same age even! Im finding it a little harder being pregnant, but she only ever wants mummy!! I don't mind as i LOVE the cuddles, but i wouldnt worry too much!! You are obviously not doing anything wrong if your child loves you and there is soo no way you are spending too much time with her! I spend every day with my daughter and we play together every day! I wouldnt have it any other way!!







People are very quick to judge to the point where you feel like telling em all where to go! My son is 15 months old and he gets very clingy to me in crowds.. Especially if extended family members that dont see him that often try to hover on him... Its just a phase and its most definetely know ones fault... My son goes to daycare two full days a week (merely for his seperation anxiety) and it got worse before it got better.. His getting better now, but still has his moments in crowds... Its completely normal..
Thank you so much Ladies for your lovely replies, you have made me feel a lot better. It's frustrating because you try to explain it to them and they just look at you like 'yea right' <img src='https://www.huggies.com.au/forum/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/dry.gif' class='bbc_emoticon' alt='<_<' /> It's nice to hear from others that understand and have been thru it themselves smile Also nice to be reassured I'm not causing DDs clinginess.








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PS love the quote on your signature... wub


Thank you, I thought it was beautiful wub








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That seems like reasonably normal behavior to me. Kids go through clingy phases. Is she getting teeth? Molars start coming in around that age and they must hurt like hell. My kids definitely where clingy when theirs came in. Otherwise illness or developmental phase could be the answer. I would not worry about what your friends say they obviously no nothing about attachment. Spending lots of time with your child makes them feel secure and if they feel secure then they are less likely to be clingy / need reassurance. Don't stress clingy phases pass.


Yea she did have 2 molars come through and during that she was even more clingy, screamed if I left her side. Poor bubba sad They must hurt so much.








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