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has daycare ruined our son? Lock Rss

our 17 month old son has never been a great night sleeper, having only slept through the night once, but was always content with waking up for drink and going straight back to sleep.

6 weeks ago i started working part time and we decided to put him into daycare and everything has changed. he used to be the happiest, smiling, laughing, giggling child who NEVER cried, whinged or threw tantrums. since he has been in daycare, his sleeping at night is the worst it has ever been with him waking several times during the night crying and we cant settle him back to sleep with milk, a dummy or even cuddling. his personality during the day has also changed where he screams and cries and throws tantrums over everything.

he has also had some of his bigger back teeth come through at the same time as well as a couple of colds to throw into the mix..... but prior to him starting daycare, he battled through each tooth with a smile and each cold with a laugh until now.

has daycare done this to our child? as i am starting to have real doubts as to whether going to work is the best thing for our family.... and for our sleep and emotional wellbeing?
If you don't feel good about it, then it's prob not right.
Maybe the daycare facility just isn't a good fit for your son? Are there others close that you could try out? Or maybe family day care?
If he isn't happy at daycare it could be causing his tantrums, crying and sleep problems. But that doesn't necessarily mean all daycare won't work. I don't really know how long it would take, but it seems 6 weeks is a fairly long time to give it a go.
Also how many days is he going? Sometimes they say it can be better to do more days, so they get used to it more, maybe you could go along on some extra days and see what is going on, also make him a bit more comfortable?
That sucks to say the least! My son hasd been going to daycare once a day since he was 10months old and i definatly think they pick up things at daycare weather they be bad or good habits.

His molars may be causing more havoc than the other which could explain the sleepless nights. Have you tried bonjela or pandol through the night to see if that helps?

It could also come down to the daycare at 1st my son would come home very cranky and just not happy but after a few months he loves going now.

The day care might not be right for you maybe have a look into other places?




daycare could cause it i guess but dont rule out that he may have gone through a stage like this anyway... my kids hit a tanty whingy stage at around 18months give or take regardless of the fact they were at home with me 24/7.
My DD has been going to day care since she was 6 months old and she really enjoys it, as she gets to interact with the kids and play games all day. I have never had an issue. She has picked up a couple of bad habits, but overall we've had a very positive experience and generally she knows she can't get away with things at home.

Perhaps a combination of teething and having a cold is the reason for your sons change? I would definitely speak to your sons carers before making any changes. Kids take time to adjust sometimes.
My nephew's "terrible 2s" started when he was around 18 months, and we know for a fact there are some habits he's picked up from daycare - like squealing at the top of his lungs just for the hec of it! He's also taken to biting, pushing and hitting people - definitely not things he's picked up at home. He's 27 months now.

I guess you have a choice to make - should he go to daycare and socialise with other kids while you work part-time, or should you yourself become housebound (with him) in order to keep control over things? The way I see it is he's going to pick up bad habits one way or another - I mean, eventually he'll have to go to school right? Maybe this is just an adjustment phase, or maybe that particular daycare he's going to isn't agreeing with him? Have you talked to them to find out what could be contributing to his mood? Or maybe your son is experiencing a little separation anxiety?

Either way, at least for the next few years, things are going to continue to change, no matter what you do. I just hope you find what works for you!
thanks everyone for your comments. it probably is just a combination of teeth, colds, seperation anxiety and early onset of the terrible 2's as the carers at his daycare facility seem be lovely and have said that he is fitting is so well and has such a great time while he is there with his new friends.

i think my husband and i are just grasping as we cant quite believe how he has changed. it is probably all just part of growing up and we were blessed with such a placid baby, that now we have a terror of a toddler.

he is still the most beautiful child, we love him to pieces..... just wish he loved sleeping like we do!!
For my kids getting molars has been a whole different ball game compared to the other teeth coming through. My kids are great sleepers but both woke frequently and were so hard to settle when they got there molars. If he has had a cold as well it's worth going to the Doctors to rule out an ear infection. I wouldn't think that childcare would be the issue unless he wasn't fitting in or there was another big issue there.
omg.... dont want to get too excited everyone but after my concerns over the last 6 weeks of our son's sleeping and my desperate post to this forum, he slept really well the last 2 nights.... saying that, he still woke up a couple of times. but no screaming or crying!!

thanks so much for all of your support. it has possibly just been a combination of teeth and cold's and new adjustments to daycare and being away from us, but i was getting desperate... it has been the longest, hardest 6 weeks.

omg.... dont want to get too excited everyone but after my concerns over the last 6 weeks of our son's sleeping and my desperate post to this forum, he slept really well the last 2 nights.... saying that, he still woke up a couple of times. but no screaming or crying!!

thanks so much for all of your support. it has possibly just been a combination of teeth and cold's and new adjustments to daycare and being away from us, but i was getting desperate... it has been the longest, hardest 6 weeks.

good to hear smile its hard when things suddenly go all crazy and even more so when you cant really pin point the issue (if there really even is one <img src='https://www.huggies.com.au/forum/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/dry.gif' class='bbc_emoticon' alt='<_<' /> ) hate to be the bear of bad news lol but it will happen again...and again..and again..and again lol xxx hope your little angel continues sleeping for you!
Its probably a combination but unfortunately I would say yes to your question. I know it ruined bith my girls when they started. DD1 got so sick when she started plus she was getting her 1st year molars and she had a dummy but we stuck it out until thee teeth were through and she wasnt as sick then we decided that they dummy was going to have to go and we did control crying and within a week she was a different child (she was 16 months at the time). I know this approach is not for everyone, I totally respect that, this is just experience. DD2 was only 91/2 months when she started and after 3 weeks it all started going pear shaped and again after a few weeks of sleep deprivation I decided to take a stance, I moved her to a new daycare and used a softer form of control crying(comfort settling) and it took two nights. Sometimes I think we forget that just like us, if we have a bad nights sleep we're grumpy the next day, its the same for them. If you can fix the nights then hopefully the days will get better too. Good luck
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