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I found out 2 days ago that I have gestational diabetes and my whole world has turned upside down. I have literally not stopped crying since. I am not overweight. I eat better than ANYONE else I know. I don't like fatty things. I don't like most sugary things. I've always hated having fat on me, not just for the sake of vanity but because it just makes me feel damn uncomfortable, so I ALWAYS watch my weight. I rarely drink juice. I wouldn't touch carbonated drinks that aren't diet. If I went to McDonalds and even if they forgot to depress the 'diet' button on the top I would make me get another one, just to ensure that I wasn't drinking real coke by accident.

I have even done quite a lot of exercise at times. During the pregnancy, I've been slack on all fronts, mostly because I've felt sick (not so sick I can't eat, just sick enough so that eating anything particularly fatty things makes me feel better) and moving is hard with a giant belly and exercise clothes on top of all the clothes I have already spent so much on... well it's a nightmare. But still, judging from other pregnant friends, I look right on target weight-wise.

I am not worried about the baby. Maybe it's because I'm cocky and assume I will be able to control all this with diet. As soon as I found out, I've gone straight back on to a low-carb diet, read up on everything I can about what you are and are not supposed to eat and I am eating like a full-blown diabetic. I've forced myself to go walking twice a day. All this on top of working full-time.

What I am in dead set panic about, and is depressing me to the point where I can't talk to anyone and just come home and cry all night is that diabetes is in the family. My uncle is technically blind. His foot is amputated. My Nanna was insulin-dependent. I remember being very young (5 or 6) and watching her prick her finger. I am scared out of my brain about pricking my finger. Even once. Let alone 4 times a day. Oh, but it gets worse. Even having GD WITHOUT family history means I have a 50% chance of getting it. But it gets worse. What if I already had it before I got pregnant? Also, I had no idea that diabetes was hereditary. I never gave diabetes any thought. I barely speak to that side of the family. I was close to my Nanna, but she died when I was 9. My son will now have a high risk of getting it in his life. I feel like I have failed him already. If I had known that it was hereditary, if I had known the risks, I would never have made myself pregnant. I regret getting pregnant on a massive scale. I can not see myself having another child after this, and that makes me even more upset as I was an only child and I never wanted to put a child through that. I always wanted to have 2, just so that he would have a friend. Now I don't even want to have him. I don't know how I can live like this and try to be happy for my son.

All the posts and information about there is about women worrying about GD and what does it mean and what do they eat. I know all about diet and exercise. Got the message pronto. I've done courses in Personal Fitness and Nutrition in the past so I already know all there is to know. Message sent. But there is SO LITTLE information out there about AFTER GD. It sounds like they just tell women so yeah you have a 50% chance of getting it full blown for the rest of your life, now off you go into the world, and then there are posts all over the internet women confirming that yes they did. I feel like there is no hope for me. I feel like even if I life strictly like this for the rest of my life, and never have any fun, that I'm still going to get it. It just seems like a guarantee for me. I feel like there is no point in going on. And I'm just so deadly jealous of everyone who doesn't have to deal with it. Absolutely everything else in my life is completely insignificant now, I've wasted an hour of work writing this, I cannot concentrate.
I too got GD with my last child. I remember feeling upset over it too but after speaking with my doctor I felt it wasn't the end of the world. Mine was controlled with diet and exercise so I was lucky and you do get used to pricking your finger. I had to do it 4 times a day and it is more an annoyance than painful. My advice is relax and breath, the doctors are great and it can be managed and your baby will be healthy still. Oh and after my bubs was born my GD has gone, I still need regular checking every 2 years but thats ok. As for it meaning big babies my bubs was 8lb 5oz when I had GD my other 2 were bigger (8lb12 and 8lb10) when I didn't have it. Good luck just remember it will be ok and bubs will be fine smile

I had it too, and was upset at first but it's not the end of the world. It's temporary and just means you have to take a little bit better care of yourself during the pregnancy. I was insulin dependant, but put of going on it for far too long, Once I got over my needle fear I felt so much better physically with the right medication.

On the plus side you care a lot of extra medical care smile

GD is very random, I also was not overweight, ate well etc, it's just the luck of the draw.

Don't let it stop you from having another child though!! You may not get it second time around.

Like a pp said, gestational diabetes is a lot more to do with the impact pregnancy hormones have on your body rather than something you actually have control over. I've had GD with all three pregnancies and, while I was really upset when I was diagnosed with my first I came to realise that it wasn't something I did 'wrong' that meant I got it, in fact I tend to be at my healthiest when pregnant because of the extra willpower I get knowing that what I eat doesn't just affect me but also my child. Yes it does increase your chance of developing type 2 diabetes in the future but that is something that you do have some level of control over through diet choices etc. In most cases your GTT when bub is about 6 weeks old will show that the GD has corrected itself.

Having had it with all 3 pregnancies, it wasn't as big a deal for me the 2nd time round because I knew what I was doing and it wasn't so unexpected. I was diagnosed at 12 weeks with DS because they tested me earlier since I'd had GD before and the plan was just that they'd test me at 12 weeks, 20 weeks and then 28 weeks if the earlier tests had been ok. This time round I was booked in to do my yearly check up test when I found out I was pregnant so was diagnosed at 5 weeks. Even with the early diagnosis I've managed it with diet so far, although keeping a very close eye on things. There is some question about whether this time it's GD or type 2 but I won't know for sure one way or another until I redo the GTT after bub is born. I was really upset about having developed GD so early this pregnancy but a midwife I see said that it isn't that I'm developing GD any earlier but that I'm being DIAGNOSED earlier which is all to the benefit of bub anyway because at least I can start managing it nice and early to minimise it's impact on bub.

I hate needles and normally pass out at the slightest sight of blood but find that doing the finger prick tests don't bother me as much as I expected, possibly because I know that keeping a close eye on my levels etc is my way of looking after bub as much as I can.

I also have GD , was diagnosed at 7 weeks and started insulin straight away, i was absolutely devastated but after talking with the Dr, diabetic nurse and specialist and having everything explained along with being able to chat with my doctor every week its helped, i also am very careful of what i ate and regularly exercised and still managed to get it, its just one of those hormonal things that just happen, its not a death sentence its just having to adjust life style for a little while and after bub is born 98% of the time every thing will re adjust itself back to normal and you might just have to go in for diabetes reviews every few years to keep a eye on it, but to be honest its worth it when you get to meet your bub smile

Coming from a person who is petrified of needles, doing your BSL & needles its a little hard at first but you get use to it and it becomes second nature you don't even think about it smile

the girls above have pretty much covered everything else and i would just be repeating everything if i said much more...

Good Luck & try not to stress

Just wanted to let you know that we have an article on Gestational Diabetes on our site, including some external links, which you may find helpful. Best of luck in your search for more information smile
wow - im absolutely shocked by your reaction sorry. I too had GD as a result of PCOS (something which required me to need IVF to get my precious baby girl). You make it sound like its the most disgusting thing in the world to have this happen. To think of it only as an "overweight disease" is ignorant. A bit of perspective is needed here.
Its not the end of the world, there are no guarantees you will ever get the disease full blown in the future (as is the same for any hereditary illnesses), it doesn't make you unborn child any less precious. Yes its a pain to do the pin pricks etc, but you do it as your first test of parenting!!!

Oh and p.s. my GD baby was 6lb 1oz and is perfectly happy and healthy. Even if I didn't get GD she will always be at risk of it due my other illness.
I certainly do not think of this as "disgusting".
Nor do I think of it only as an "overweight disease".

I am not sure how you got that impression. Perhaps because there is a lot of literature out there about Type II being linked to obesity. Since it runs in my family, and most of the people on that side of my family are obese (and not just slightly obese, extremely obese), sure it is in my head. But you are making me sound like a horrible person.

What I am DESPERATELY HOPING is that I can prevent this in future by being thin, exercising and changing my diet. All I can see on the internet is heaps and heaps of people who say they still developed Type II diabetes DESPITE being thin and doing all the right things. That gives me no hope that I can avoid it. Surely you can understand how depressing that is, knowing that you're depriving yourself of enjoying the food and the lifestyle that the person next to you is enjoying, and you still have a 50% chance of getting it, which is ridiculously high.
I think hoping4bubs has made some really good points.

Eilonwy wrote:
All I can see on the internet is heaps and heaps of people who say they still developed Type II diabetes DESPITE being thin and doing all the right things. That gives me no hope that I can avoid it. Surely you can understand how depressing that is, knowing that you're depriving yourself of enjoying the food and the lifestyle that the person next to you is enjoying, and you still have a 50% chance of getting it, which is ridiculously high.

Maybe stop googling so much and focus on living and ENJOYING a healthy, active lifestyle. Stressing about something that may or may not happen, is not good for you. Eat treats in moderation, you don't need to deprive yourself, just be sensible. smile
Izzyjbandme wrote:
I can understand your worry but not to be nasty or anything but i think your being a bit dramatic yes diabetes is not nice but there are so many other far worse ailments you could have. Diabetes is managable its not a death sentence.

Well said smile
Well, I don't mean to offend either, but telling someone who is clearly very upset that they are being "dramatic" is not very supportive. This is meant to be a supportive forum. I'm not sure how these comments are meant to assist me. This is a very serious condition, and I'm surprised at the comments trying to downplay it. As I said earlier, my uncle is now missing his eyesight and foot. I understand there are worse things, i.e. death. Perhaps, in a few months, that may be some comfort.

Thank you all for your assistance.
I tend to wonder if some of you have even seen how people suffer with diabetes and how even with the best diets, exercise and management in place it can be unmanageable. It is a bit narrow minded to think it is not a life sentence because it is. There are further complications then just having a strict diet, exercise and inslin program. Organ failure is very real for diabetics, amputations, lose of eyesight and these are just a few things that can and do go wrong - not for all diabetics but for quite a few.

Been diagnosed with GD is a scarey thing and no one should be dismissing it as easy and to get over it. It is a life long thing that you now have to be concerned about. Then on top of that you have a baby who could develop diabetes and I know for me that is an awful thought. Imagine a small child who is hooked up to an insulin pump, who has to have a strict diet, who can have high BSL levels for no reason, and low BSL again for no reason.

Some people can be so judgemental
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