needing a bit of advice! this is really a bit of a vent for me so sorry if its long!
last night me n DH were lying in bed and talking bout what i want to do for birth. im really wanting to give home water birth a go and try do it natural. (i was induced with DD1)but all of a sudden he says thats he doesnt like it at all and is not going to change his mind about how he feels about it, but that if i want to do it its fine.
his reasons for this was that he thinks hospitals are safer, and has all the worst scenarios in head like me and bubs die, bubs dies, or i die (dramatic i know) will happen if we have a homebirth. i tried telling him that that hardly ever happens and can easily happen just as much in a hospital. my DH has a very strong mind set and when he thinks he knows something hes always right.he also doesnt understand why i want a water birth either. he kept saying about a epidural aswell even when i told him that i want to try doing it all me no drugs. (i had a epidural with DD1)
i told him that my MW wouldnt do a homebirth if there were any complications and would transfer to the hospital if she thought there was something wrong etc and she can deal with most situations - thats what shes for. he got mad at me when i said that he can come talk to her next visit and ask questions; his response to that was no im not talking to anyone about it i wont change my mind, if any1 trys telling me why i should like hel tell them to f*** off.
dont get me wrong my DH is a very loving and kind man, he just has a strong personality and when hes got something in his head thats it you cant change it very rarely.
after our talk he said but if you want it its fine il still support you. i was a bit upset after this, i dont want to go through labour without all his support 100%, with him thinking i cant do it without being at the hospital and a epidural.
i just feel stuck, i really want to give it a go (i wouldnt do it if there were complications or anything like that) and in my mind theres no reason why i cant ive no problems with this pregnancy and bubs is healthy and growing perfect.and on the other side i want DH to be comfortable with it and dont want to do something that hes not happy with.
sorry for long post just needed to get of my chest! so any kind of advice would be great!