Even though my DH works away half the time, we never really considered it would have any impact on how long it would take us to conceive, as we're technically "in our prime" (I'm now 24, my DH is 27)
It's been 13 months off the pill for me, and things never went back to the way the were when I wasn't on the pill, IYKWIM, but by the time we moved and I talked to my new GP, he just blew me off saying if I was having regular-ish periods, our age, and DH away, there was nothing to worry about and we could expect it to take maybe 2 years before we got pregnant without intervention. In 13 months we've been together at the right time 6 times, so technically only been trying for 6 months.
Finding out that I don't ovulate properly even though I have normal hormone levels, DH has good counts, and I have "regular" periods, and having symptoms of endometriosis was just a kick in the guts. And with missing out on this first Clomid cycle, plus my DH's tour dates going all over the place over the next 3-4 months, I'm just getting really disheartened. I have to take the pill to line us back up again for when DH is home in November, but then if we miss that too, his next two tours home won't match either, and I can't keep taking the pill to move my cycle, I might as well wait until his tours are where they're supposed to be..
I've got to the point now, where if we miss out in November, I just don't want to try for a while. Because the FS thinks I may have endo, I've had a referral accepted by Gyno at the Hospital to see a Consultant about having a laprascopy done, to investigate and clear anything in there or have a flush anyway. The FS wants to move to Clomid + IUI after having that done. But I can't imagine not trying, and whether it will make my stress worse, as I know it's really starting to stress me out, especially as I have to travel for parts of my fertility treatment on short notice (3 hours there for scans).
On top of all that, I have been unemployed since Feb, and if we have to move to IUI, it get's more expensive, esp if we use frozen sperm every other month, and right now, we have no way of funding that, we can only pay for the monitored Clomid cycles coz it's every other month.
I'm just feeling so over the monthly reminder that I'm not going to be a Mum for at least another 9 months, and I have no-one IRL who has any idea of what I'm going through..