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Im so sorry Bo for your loss. I cant begin to imagine how you are feeling. Its always difficult to lose a baby but I cant even begin to imagine how it would be at 38 weeks. My heart aches for you. Its really hard to find people to talk too, no one really mentions their losses but its more common than we think when then subject is bought up. I dont really talk about it much to my friends and family just because none of them have had a mc and just feel they cant quite understand exactly.

32 weeks pregnant, thats so great, I wish you all the best, its suppose to be such an exciting time but I feel the fear that you have, poor thing, be strong and chat if you need to it does help.

Thanks Merlin, your kind words mean alot. smile

Here's to the precious blessings we get to keep and the ones we don't[quote]value[/quote Aaah that is so true.Though when people say oh these things happen for a reason it really gets to me. Merlin-Thankyou for your kind words and I too am sorry for your loss. Scarlet-life is cruel and unfair sometimes isnt it.Though I think losing a child is something that completely batters our innocence for life. Hope you are keeping well and getting lots of support. Bo - 32 weeks is great,how are you holding up? It is such an emotional time.And yes birthdays due dates are so hard.Ironically I had DS 3 (5 months old) 1 year 1week and 1 day after having DS 2 Am here to chat if anyone wants too though might make up another thread instead of using sticky

Finally something has been written about loss it is so out there and no one want to write about it. My story i had a perfect pregnancy no problems at all i went into labour and 18 hours gave birth to the most beautiful baby in october 2006 6 hours later she died. At the time we were devasted beyond anything that has ever happening to myself and my husband. 2 months later we received the findings of her death and it was group b strep after much research and a brilliant support from our doctor i realised just how very rare it is for a baby to die but still is does happen. There are post about group b strep and people treat it like its no big deal i tested negative to this. Each day is a massive struggle to keep going but luckily i have support from my wonderful husband who now thinks its norm to watch me cry. Thanks again for starting this site i hope it really helps others

siennajools, im so very sorry. its something i will never(i hope) understand. i too have group b strep i was tested at 37 weeks with my second so i was able to get the antibiotics when i went into be induced but the test wasnt around for my first luckily hes fine but i wonder if i had it then and if i did what could have happened, it certainly is a big deal your beautiful little girl is proof of that i hope all doctors and midwives test pregnant woman for this. when did you get tested, i was told they dont test earlier than 37 weeks because there is a chance you can pick it up after that. again im so sorry.

my worst fear is the loss of any of my 4 soon to be 5 children later in a pregnancy whether it ne miscarriage or stillbirth or loosing a child full stop. i miscarried in early feb to find out 6 weeks later that i was 5 weeks pregnant. i fell pregnant again one week later without intercourse. weird i know but the doc said that i ovulated twice that month. it def wasnt twins coz i had a HcG blood test to confirm the loss and the level was back within normal limits. i guess im saying that i was still dealing with the reality that i had just lost a baby and then so quickly found out i was pregnant again. i was so scared and still are, im 23 weeks pregnant and so far so good.
Good luck and my heart goes out to all those ladies who have lost a child xoxo

sorry to hear everyones losses. After three gorgeous kids to my first marriage, i had three miscarriages in a row with my new partner. I found these really hard due to previously having no problems carrying the others. We were referred to the local specialist who said to try having low dose asprin when we felt ready to conceive again. We did and now have a gorgeous wee boy 10mths. Im currently 14 weeks with number five and again on the asprin, still feels abit early to get too excited but fingers crossed it all goes well.

HI ,MY SISTER JUST LOST HER BEAUTIFUL LITTLE GIRL AFTER CARRING HER FOR 39 WEEKS.THERE IS NO ANSWER WHY SHE PASSED AWAY, WHEN SHE HAD COME SO FAR AND READY TO GIVE BIRTH.SHE HAS A LITTLE BOY WHO IS 3 AND HE HAS BEEN A GREAT HELP TO HELP HER GET THROUGH WHAT HAS HAPPENED.SHE IS VERY SCARED TO HAVE ANOTHER ONE AND DOSENT KNOW HOW SHE WILL COPE.WE WILL CROSS THAT ROAD WHEN IT COMES.SOMETIMES SHE THINKS GOD TOOK HER BECAUSE HE KNEW SOMETHING WAS WRONG WE HER.ITS VERY HARD TO UNDERSTAND WHY BUT WE ARE HERE FOR HER AND HER HUSBAND EVERY DAY.

Hi,
I suffered my first M/C last monday (20/08/07) i was 9 weeks and i am still so upset about it but also happy to know that there are so many of you out there (unfortunately) who know exaclty how i feel. Although my family and friends are being great they don't know what i am going through and are having a tough time trying to say the right words. so i really need to talk to people who are in the same boat as me. My husband and i want to try again soon but i am scared that it will happen again and i don't know if my husband could cope if it happened again. i really want another baby as i dont feel complete ( i know that sounds selfish i already have a beautiful little boy 18 months) but i dont want to go through what i have just been through ever again. is what i am feeling normal? i am so torn for wanting another baby and being so scared it will happen again.
I would love some advice if anyone has any.
Mel

hi there

I have got three healthy kids 7 5 and 4 and i reecently has a miscarriage. I tried for a year to concieve and I got really upset when people including the nurses saying that at least you have three kids.

I understand that there are people that have many miscarriages that dont have any kids but it still does not take away the pain of losing this baby that I wanted so bad.

My thoughts are with all the women that have lost their babys as its a loss that you can not explain to the women it has not happened to.

hj

Hi everyone.. Im Trish and am new here.10 weeks ago i lost my twin girls.. went into prem labour and they just couldnt wait to enter this world but they were just to young to survive.We are trying again for another bub as we had the all clear from the specialist.Our baby girls were perfect and there was nothing wrong with them it just wasnt there time to enter our lives.This is the hardest thing that i have ever had to deal with.I think about them,talk to them and shed a tear for them every day.I hope everyone else is ok and good luck if you are TTC again..I hope its soon.Thanks for listening..Take care everyone