going through my fourth miscarriage

Hi everyone

i have a 22yo and a 2yo... i have a yearning to have one more child but i am miscarrying at around 4-5 week mark... this is my 4th miscarriage in 11 months... i feel like i want to cry for a very long time... i just wonder if there is anyone out there that has suffered multiple miscarriages and gone on to have a successful pregnancy?

So sorry to hear that. It's such a rotten thing to go through. I hope you have lots of love and support in your life.

I had three in a row and found it one of the hardest things I've ever been through. I went to the Pregnancy Investigation Unit at my local hospital and they did a lot of basic tests - full blood work on DH and I checking for hormonal problems, deficiencies, that sort of thing. They found no actual problem as, like you, I was able to fall pregnant easily...it was the staying pregnant that was a problem. In my case they put it down to my age...egg quality declines. The specialist told me at my age a 75% miscarriage rate could be expected - blew me away, but was oddly reassuring as it meant if I could hang in there, eventually a pregnancy should come good.

I have a 23 year old and a 2 year old smile

I did some soul searching about whether to keep trying and decided to put it out of my mind until after a trip to Bali. And then discovered I was pregnant. I'm now 20 weeks with a little girl and everything couldn't be better. It has been such a healing thing. Now I look back on those miscarriages as just something very hard I had to go through to have this precious baby.

I wish you all the luck in the world if you decide to keep trying. I feel sad that you are going through this - I know nothing anyone can say can make it any easier. I hope the sun shines through the clouds soon.

ETA: not sure if you've tried this but fertility doctors can prescribe progesterone pessaries when you are pregnant that cut down risk of miscarrying.

Hi thanks for sharing your story... i have been told exactly what you were told.... this time round i was using progesterone cream but my specialist told me that they dont really work... i will see him in 2 weeks and i will ask him to give me the pessaries and DHEA... apparantly they help with the quality of the eggs...

i will try again, but maybe i need to relax my thinking... BTW how old are you if you dont mind me asking? i am 41 years old.

Hi, I am so very sorry for your losses.

I have a 6 year old and a 10 month old baby.

In between my two children I had 1 missed miscarriage at 13 weeks and 2 very early miscarriages (i only knew I was pregnant with those two because of the First Response Pregnancy tests).

I think my problem was that I had a thyroid problem. I had what is known as hypothyroidism during pregnancy. It's the only time I have hypothyroidism. All it took was a blood test and a very good obstetrician who then referred me on to an endocrinologist.

I was given thyroid medication and also told to take cartia (aspirin).

Don't take aspirin unless advised by your doctor - but for me that is what I needed.

I then went on to have my baby.

So this may not be the reason for your losses but it's definitely worth investigating your thryoid levels. I think all pregnant women should have this test as routine.

Best wishes.

Sorry to hear about recurring miscarriages. I have an idea how much you will have suffered. But you need to be strong to overcome all the effects of it. You should not allow this fear to get up on you and make you depressed. I have been through this condition. I know how it feels to lose an unborn baby. I have been through this hard time. It shocked me well and resulted in my divorce. I had 3 miscarriages. I was TTC for 17 years but didn't succeed. After 17 years, i was pregnant for 3 times but my pregnancies resulted in miscarriages. I also miscarried for the first time at 4th week. It is really hardest feeling and i know its pain. You should not lose your hope. Try to contact a good doctor for your checkup. You should also improve your lifestyle to improve your health. My best wishes are with you for your future.