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How long is it supposed to take :( Lock Rss

To feel better sad

Can't stop thinking about my little baby and how sad I am that I will never get to meet him/her. It's worse because I'm still pregnant and the miscarriage could be days or a week or more away and as long as it hasn't happened, I feel like I can't move on.

DH hasn't been very helpful either, he's been really stand offish and has not given me the emotional support I've really craved. All my friends and family go to work through the week so it's just been me and a teething, frustrated toddler and it's making it so much harder to forget about.

Not much point to this, just need to get it out there. Thanks for listening




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Sorry to here the babe! I hope you feel but soon!

Alexandra due on 20/02/13


Mummy lost on 1/12/12


Behind a Smile wrote:
Always an ear, or well eye as the case is here.

Don't push yourself, you need to grieve and go through the stages of grief an loss.
You will get there tho

Xxxxxxx bug hugs and hit chocolate and timtams for you


I ate an entire bag of red frogs (like the bulk buy 1kg bags you get from the lolly shops) and have gone to town on caffiene and sugar. It's probably not helping stablise my mood much but oh well, feels good at the time




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Little Miss's wrote:
So sorry Skubala. It is so hard. With my missed miscarriage I was 10wks. I hadn't passed my baby so I decided on a D&C. I needed it to be fine and over so I could move on. I couldn't sit around waiting for it, knowing it was coming.

It so hard. I hope it happens soon so you can move forward with TTC. My DF wasn't very helpful either it is just their way of coping I think. Just disconnecting. He kept telling people I as fine when they called but I was far from it.

Big hugs to you xx


Going to have a D&C next week if it hasn't happened. Wish it could just be done now. I think I will cope better when it is all over but knowing it's going to happen but not knowing when is so hard.




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sad It really sucks Skoobs!

How long does it take to feel better? I still have moments of sadness and anger when thinking about my miscarriage, and that was 9yrs ago! But, to get over the initial pain and sadness, the answer would be, however long it takes you.
Like Behind a Smile said, you have to grieve, and that most likely won't start properly until the miscarriage is all over. GBH's once again. xx
im really sorry your going through this. i know its hard but it will get better. sending big big hugs your way. wub wub wub wub





Thanks everyone, good to know I have lots of virtual hugs, even if not RL ones smile




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*massive hugs* Hun!! xxxx a loss is never easy!! I still ache when I think about the 5 angels I've lost over time! Chin up sweetie, u WILL get through it! N we're all here to chat if u need too xxxx



V_1990 wrote:
*massive hugs* Hun!! xxxx a loss is never easy!! I still ache when I think about the 5 angels I've lost over time! Chin up sweetie, u WILL get through it! N we're all here to chat if u need too xxxx


5, gosh I don't think I could do this 5 times. 2 is hard enough




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So sorry! Wish I could do or say more than that. Almost feels pointless to say but know my thoughts are with you.


StrawberryTimTam wrote:
So sorry! Wish I could do or say more than that. Almost feels pointless to say but know my thoughts are with you.


It's not pointless. I feel like it's pointless me saying anything, feel like I keep thinking/feeling and saying the same things over and over but it doesn't change anything. It's so frustrating I just feel really trapped in myself. Just needed to vent tonight




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Aww Skubula wish we could all actually be with you and give u a real hug, am so sorry you are going through this.




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