Unfortunatley I do know of a few people who have "smoked" through their pregnancy's, and so far luckily their bubs seem to be ok. I think it is very wrong, and that their children may come to have troubles keeping up with learning ect...
If Dh still wants to do it, tell him not in the house or around you and bubs. I have seen the mood swings and attitude problems this stuff causes, and think it shouldn't be shown around kids.
He may grow out of it, but from the people I know, I can see they will never change.
Good Luck I hope this helps a little.
Little miss cranky pants : S
unfortunantly it's not something they grow out of, as all his friends, some with children haven't given up... I dont know how you could edge him to quit.
i kind of pushed him in that direction... pushed him away from his closest friends who were smoking all the time so he wouldnt be tempted. His best friend came onto me, so I guess it was a bit easier for him to distance himself from that guy.
I dont think altamatums work... I think you have to make him realise its wrong... get a fact page about how it affects children, tell him it could be the life and death of your child. maybe that will wake him up... try and get rid of the opportunity for him to do it...
Guys with the addiction... its so hard to break when they have been doing it for so long!!!
Tracey,Jaye (girl)12/06/05, Sam (boy)10/07/09
mummy 4 joshie loc mol mag Char Tess
DS jaedyn 4, EDD 18/08/07
I was a smoker before I found out if pregnant and did my promise to my hubby in giving them up when I feel pregnant. DH doesnt smoke, which made it eaiser for me to give them up and majority of my mates dont smoke.
I do know ppl who have smoked throughout their pregnancy and kids are ok, but they smoke outside. I have no problem with ppl smoking as long as its outside and the end of the day it their choice, with all Anti-smoking Laws coming about, smoking will be just made harder anyways to light up one in public places and they will eventually give up cos they cannot be bothered walking 10 miles to have a smoke.
But end of they day for Mum's wanting their DH to quit or vice versa. All you can really tell them your concerns (if you havent had major blues over the smoking issue, cos that just fuels it) about their health in the long run and the relationship btw Dad/Mum and child. Even asking them if they could smoke outside usually is no problem anyways since its a common place these days.
But if they decide that they will give quiting a go, and support them 100%, no doubt their will be moments when they pick it up again but that is usually normal, keep supporting them and ask them to be honest. Nicoten is additive.
No one is perfect...took me about 5 goes before falling pregnant which was the real modivation! Amazing what the mind does when it is determined lol!
Prolly blabbed enough and I hope I made some sense wink
I admit to smoking once or twice in high school and almost starting to do it after that but found out that i was pregnant so the thought hasnt really entered into my mind since.
My partner on the otherhand was quiet a bad smoker in high school but ive noticed since i was pregnant with my son, even befor i was seeing him, he cut down so much. Now its so rare for me to even see him smoke just show the amount of respect he has for my son. On the other 'smoking' issue im pretty sure he has occasionally but its so few and far between that i never hear about it and is never done anywhere around us.
they frustrates me so much last sat i moved back to my mums place.. if they cant be responsible i will have to
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I am currently going through this with my DP. He gave up earlier in the year for a good few months - his decision to do so - I supported him 100 percent and it was not easy - he was a total jerk for months - agro, rude, arrogant etc etc
Now he has recently started again - It depresses me to no end - I feel cheated of the earlier months - feel like it was a miserable waste of time - he thinks I am just over reacting - not to mention I was pregnant at the time.
It is a selfish habit and you are right. I feel like he is either in a false happiness because he has smoked or is a miserable jerk because he doesnt have any. The cost is ridiculous as well - I wish I had that same amt of money to spend on myself!!!
Thanks - that was a good little vent