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I am not sure what to do. I ahve just had my second baby 2 weeks ago and have a 13 month old son also. I am not sure if it is PND but had the same issues when my first son was small. I find that I get frustrated and angry very easily when my newborn cries or doesn't feed well etc. I am worried I am going to hurt him and feel like the worst mother ever as I can't control my anger. I know rationally that he is only small and is still getting used to being in the world but find that I can't think straight when I get stressed. With my first son it seemed to improve as he got older and I bonded with him more - to the point where I would cry whenever he hurt himself and struggled to cope with leaving him to have this baby. I haven't told anyone about this as I feel ashamed of my behaviour. I am wondering if there is a counselling service I can use to talk it thru and try to get to the bottom of it - I had a pretty screwed up childhood and have a mother who is not menatlly stable so do not want to end up like her in any way but feel I need to do something about it.

I really hope others have felt like this and it's not just me, would really appreciate any comments or ideas on how to overcome this.

Aw darlin GBH you wouldn't be the first to have feelings like this I wish I could help more but I haven't experienced pnd but it's nothing to be ashamed about.
Maybe talk to your doctor he could put you onto a councilor to talk to.
Least you have taken the first step and have reached out here for helpxxx

I am not sure what to do. I ahve just had my second baby 2 weeks ago and have a 13 month old son also. I am not sure if it is PND but had the same issues when my first son was small. I find that I get frustrated and angry very easily when my newborn cries or doesn't feed well etc. I am worried I am going to hurt him and feel like the worst mother ever as I can't control my anger. I know rationally that he is only small and is still getting used to being in the world but find that I can't think straight when I get stressed. With my first son it seemed to improve as he got older and I bonded with him more - to the point where I would cry whenever he hurt himself and struggled to cope with leaving him to have this baby. I haven't told anyone about this as I feel ashamed of my behaviour. I am wondering if there is a counselling service I can use to talk it thru and try to get to the bottom of it - I had a pretty screwed up childhood and have a mother who is not menatlly stable so do not want to end up like her in any way but feel I need to do something about it.

I really hope others have felt like this and it's not just me, would really appreciate any comments or ideas on how to overcome this.


hey,

DO NOT WORRY your not the only one feel;ing like this i was the same with DS i didnt want to talk about it and it only made it worse when i look back! i got better when i stopped bf ( not saying you should do that) thats just how i was! i think you should talk about it! you might find your partner will be a huge help if you talk to him about it! if you dont feel comfy doing that then there is a PND help line you can contact 1300224636 or the beyondblue.org.au
you are an amazing mother and having those thaughts makes you no less! if you need to talk or anything PM me!!!! im always willing to listen! take care of yourself mybe put little on in the pram DS for a walk and head over to a park fresh air will help alot and the movement may help settle little one. good luck like i already your not alone and PM me if you want to.

1st baby due start of sep


I am not sure what to do. I ahve just had my second baby 2 weeks ago and have a 13 month old son also. I am not sure if it is PND but had the same issues when my first son was small. I find that I get frustrated and angry very easily when my newborn cries or doesn't feed well etc. I am worried I am going to hurt him and feel like the worst mother ever as I can't control my anger. I know rationally that he is only small and is still getting used to being in the world but find that I can't think straight when I get stressed. With my first son it seemed to improve as he got older and I bonded with him more - to the point where I would cry whenever he hurt himself and struggled to cope with leaving him to have this baby. I haven't told anyone about this as I feel ashamed of my behaviour. I am wondering if there is a counselling service I can use to talk it thru and try to get to the bottom of it - I had a pretty screwed up childhood and have a mother who is not menatlly stable so do not want to end up like her in any way but feel I need to do something about it.

I really hope others have felt like this and it's not just me, would really appreciate any comments or ideas on how to overcome this.
I know exactly how you feel! My DD is 4 months old and my DS is 3 years old. I was fine with my DS but this time around I have been really cranky and irritable and find myself losing my temper really easily too. Mainly at my DS as he is being pretty naughty and I don't seem to be able to handle it very well. I am finding myself flying off the handle really easily too and I am not usually an angry person. I have my really down days and my ok days. Have talked to my DH about it and I have booked in to see my local GP about it this week as I was thinking it may be PND. Just not feeling my usual self and hate being cranky all the time! You should perhaps go and see your GP??
Definitely not alone with those feelings. Maybe have a talk to either your GP or Child Health Nurse about what is available in your area in the way of counselling. It really does help to talk about it. I've had PND with all three of my kids. I use anti-depressants as well. Each time it has got easier. This time around I posted a message on this site looking for other mothers and have found a lovely bunch of women who are my best friends now. Maybe ask CHN if there are any local mums groups or look up playgroups in your area. If you're not up to socialising yet, maybe just a walk to the park or even just a walk round the block. No matter what you do, small steps will get you there. You've done well to make it to posting this and asking for help. The fact that you recognised you have a problem show's that you are a great mum. Don't be afraid to post here if you want to get something of your chest or need advice. Can PM anytime:)
Thanks for the replies, its nice to know I am not alone. I made myself tell my midwife today and she is making a referral to maternal mental health so I feel a lot better now that I have done something.


Thanks for the replies, its nice to know I am not alone. I made myself tell my midwife today and she is making a referral to maternal mental health so I feel a lot better now that I have done something.

Excellent:) Well done:)

Thanks for the replies, its nice to know I am not alone. I made myself tell my midwife today and she is making a referral to maternal mental health so I feel a lot better now that I have done something.


Great news. We also have a lot of resources on the Huggies site. You might like to read through the Post Natal Depression pages as well.

Take care <span class="emoticon smile">smile</span>
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