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Hi, I have recently had a baby (8weeks) and I have a 7 year old boy (different fathers). During my preg with DS I was physically, sexually and mentally abused everyday until DS was 2 years old.
I am now engaged and we have had a baby, but during my preg with DD I had felt depressed and suffered from panic attacks. Now that I've had DD my depression has gotten worse, and when I leave the house I have panic attacks, so basically I shop off the internet and plan everything well in advance when I have to go out.
I've been to 3 different doctors, and told them I need medication, 3 who have all said go to a counsellour you should stay bf and you can't on medication.
My partner doesn't know what to do, I've just got of the phone to my mum and she said "I can't do anything you need to see a dr, and why would I want to talk when you're always having a go at me?".
I feel like I'm falling apart and I don't know where to turn orwhat to do
hi there
i am so sorry that you had to go through such a traumatic experience.
you need to find a GP who will support you.

you absolutely CAN take medication while breastfeeding. i was on Lexapro for post natal depression whilst breastfeeding and i was on the meds for 13 months and breastfed for 2 years - no problems whatsoever.

yes, you do need counselling. but you really need to find a GP who is more open to medication as although it doesnt "fix" the problem, it can sometimes be a life saver.

Good luck getting the help you need and demand that someone assess your properly and make some options available to you.

If you are in australia you can go onto a "mental health plan" where medicare covers the cost for 6 sessions with a psychologist. This might be a good place to start as well as medication, if thats what you feel you need.
I have taken Effexor XR and Zoloft while breastfeeding my children without any problems. Definitely find a GP that will listen and refer you onto some sort of counselling service. If you don't have any luck with them try your Maternal Health Nurse next time you have bubs weighed. If you are in Australia, no sure if it's nation wide but I had the MHN come to my home because of my PND. This site has some good links to services too. It is really important the you seek help. Just reaching out to us shows what a caring and loving mummy you are, that you want to be well for your children. We are here for you:)
Trying to remember the name of the anti depressant I took with DD2. Celopram I think it was or similarly named. I was breastfeeding and my dr said it was ok.
I never went to counselling either as it's just not how I tend to deal with things so I can't comment on that.
Do you have any friends you can open up to about this?
The 'mental health plan' can get you up to 12 free sessions. You need to ask your doctor to set it up for you (I think). I ended up getting a further 12 sessions on the same plan, so it can be ongoing if you and the psych believe it's working. They can assess you and give feedback to your doctor. Along with the PND, I also had an anxiety disorder and PTSD, and OCD. In the end I made peace with so many of the awful things that happened to me using only counselling, no drugs.
Give the mental health team a go at you, if it doesn't work then they'll help you find the right option for medication.
Hope that helps a bit smile

Hi, I have recently had a baby (8weeks) and I have a 7 year old boy (different fathers). During my preg with DS I was physically, sexually and mentally abused everyday until DS was 2 years old.
I am now engaged and we have had a baby, but during my preg with DD I had felt depressed and suffered from panic attacks. Now that I've had DD my depression has gotten worse, and when I leave the house I have panic attacks, so basically I shop off the internet and plan everything well in advance when I have to go out.
I've been to 3 different doctors, and told them I need medication, 3 who have all said go to a counsellour you should stay bf and you can't on medication.
My partner doesn't know what to do, I've just got of the phone to my mum and she said "I can't do anything you need to see a dr, and why would I want to talk when you're always having a go at me?".
I feel like I'm falling apart and I don't know where to turn orwhat to do

I worked in mental health for 12 years and spent time working with mums with postnatal depression. It is extremely difficult to find a GP that is able to treat mental health issues effectively. If you can not get any help from your GP and if you live in a major city most have a mental health facility and you can go to the emergency department and ask to be seen by a mental health professional who will assess you and give you treatment options. Look up your local hospitals and see what they can offer. You can also ask your Gp to refer you to a psychiatrist who will be able to prescribe the best treatment for you. We treated pregnant ladies and breastfeeding mums with medication. Good Luck

I worked in mental health for 12 years and spent time working with mums with postnatal depression. It is extremely difficult to find a GP that is able to treat mental health issues effectively. If you can not get any help from your GP and if you live in a major city most have a mental health facility and you can go to the emergency department and ask to be seen by a mental health professional who will assess you and give you treatment options. Look up your local hospitals and see what they can offer. You can also ask your Gp to refer you to a psychiatrist who will be able to prescribe the best treatment for you. We treated pregnant ladies and breastfeeding mums with medication. Good Luck

Might be better where you are, I tried the hospital option and was told that unless I actually tried to kill myself, there was nothing they could do. There is a big grey area between healthy, and actively suicidal. Not good.

Hi, I have recently had a baby (8weeks) and I have a 7 year old boy (different fathers). During my preg with DS I was physically, sexually and mentally abused everyday until DS was 2 years old.
I am now engaged and we have had a baby, but during my preg with DD I had felt depressed and suffered from panic attacks. Now that I've had DD my depression has gotten worse, and when I leave the house I have panic attacks, so basically I shop off the internet and plan everything well in advance when I have to go out.
I've been to 3 different doctors, and told them I need medication, 3 who have all said go to a counsellour you should stay bf and you can't on medication.
My partner doesn't know what to do, I've just got of the phone to my mum and she said "I can't do anything you need to see a dr, and why would I want to talk when you're always having a go at me?".
I feel like I'm falling apart and I don't know where to turn orwhat to do


We have some links to Community support groups on our site which hopefully provide you with some additional avenues for support.

Best of luck and let us know how you are getting along <span class="emoticon smile">smile</span>
have you tried contacting your community health nurse or even getting in contact with your midwives? they are very understanding and can point you in the right direction, they oftn can direct you to more specialised GPs. and the scheme where you can get the first 6 professional sessions free is well worth it, any GP should be able to do that for you.

even if you dont live in an area close to the city you can be refered to hospital clinics where you stay with bub for a few days and a trained nurse is there to help you all the way, youd need a GP referal and theres often waiting lists but a friend of mine was terrible with PND and i think it may have saved her life. the clinics are free also.

i was a sufferer myself but you CAN get past it, it wont be easy, but you will. dont close any doors and demand the help you need. X
Hi, well I've been back to the dr, and he's given me a mental health plan, now here's the hard part, keeping it together until the 11th. I had my first child when I was 18, 7 years ago, and because I chose to keep my baby and not party, I lost my friends. I now live where I don't know anyone, so my partner is basically all I have.
I know I've been pushing him away lately, but I just can't help but feel he doesn't care. I ask him for help, and he thinks helping around the house is help. I say all I need is to feel like I have someone there to help, and his response is "I can't help, thats what counsellors are for". Its just hard feeling like I'm doing this on my own.

Hi, well I've been back to the dr, and he's given me a mental health plan, now here's the hard part, keeping it together until the 11th. I had my first child when I was 18, 7 years ago, and because I chose to keep my baby and not party, I lost my friends. I now live where I don't know anyone, so my partner is basically all I have.
I know I've been pushing him away lately, but I just can't help but feel he doesn't care. I ask him for help, and he thinks helping around the house is help. I say all I need is to feel like I have someone there to help, and his response is "I can't help, thats what counsellors are for". Its just hard feeling like I'm doing this on my own.

hows the mental health plan working out for you? my hubby is a wonderful man and im very lucky to have him, but i think the 'talking' side of things is a bit scary for most guys and maybe he wants to help but simply doent know what to say, if hes helping around the house that IS a good thing for you at least hes trying =)
the hardest thing i found was getting back out and meeting new people rather then feeling depressed about 'lost' friends. you need to find other women/ families who uplift and support you, it sounds hard at first but once you make that inital scary step it becomes alot easier. maybe a new playgroup? or an interest group like landcare? you will meet people. being in a new area sucks too i was in the same situation when i had #2 AND we had to live at my inlaws for a while =/ but once i found a new playgroup things got a bit better and have only kept going up. pm me iif you ever need to talk X good luck
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