I am so over the pressure that gets put on mums to breastfeed like warriors the second they give birth, without any reassurance of "if you don't want to, or can't, then that is ok"
Instead I get the "if your milk doesn't come in, then we will keep yanking on your nipples till it does, until your breasts are cracked and in so much pain that you are reduced to tears and become an unconsolable stressed teary mess." Ok, maybe a touch of an exageration... but that's how it feels.
While I was waiting in my hospitals maternity area I was reading all the posters that were plastered everywhere about breastfeeding, and how far superior it is to formula. One poster ACTUALLY said... "BEWARE! If you don't breastfeed, your child will have a lower IQ, risks malformation, SIDS and Childhood Cancers" Honestly... how did this get approval to even be printed!
I feel like I'm the only person in the world that is disgusted by the pressures and one sidedness of breastfeeding.
I approached a midwife about this poster and told her that if I was a mother that was struggling to breastfeed I would find this increadibly stressful... and the response.... "Well actually less than 3% of women can't actually breastfeed, and the 3% that aren't, just aren't trying hard enough or persisting." Yup... my jaw is still on the floor.
Yes, I agree that there are stong benifits of breastmilk for a child, but at the same time, surely there comes a point where either option should be supported by midwifes and other mothers if formula is the chosen option. Medical professionals should be able to respect a patients choice and decisions they have made for their newborn without bias or putting pressure on them to change their minds. If a new mum has been educated on the pro's and con's of bf and formula feeding, and chooses formula... then thats the choice, end of story, stop making them out to feel like the bad guy.
I am due for a C-section in a weeks time, I have been attempting to express for an hour a day for a month now, without even as much as a drop of colostreum, and have already experienced what I call "the bullying approach" from hospital staff regarding me feeding my newborn in hospital.
There is a long history on my mothers side with the lack of ability to breastfeed, and it is looking like I am to follow in their footsteps. I am 100% totally comfortable with bottle feeding and formula, and plan on doing this in hospital if my milk still hasn't come in. I have told my midwife that this is my plan... only to be responded to with "no that is rediculous, we will keep your baby on your breast until it is fed."
Ummmm... no you won't.
I would much rather my bub have a full feed regularly via a bottle, then us both get stressed out and bub not fed adequetly through failed attempts of breast feeding.
Phew! End of rant. Glad I got that off my chest, thanks for listening!
Mothers who can breastfeed... high 5's to you
Mothers who can't, or chose to use forumla... high 5's to you too! smile